having a wingman or going solo?

   By being alone, not drunk, relaxed, and approachable, I get bumped up on her sex wish list.   --RooshV

 Those are some great words from Roosh - author of Bang! (get it now if you don't already have the ebook)  - and it's something I've always also been in agreement with.

Honestly, I've never been a good wingman.  I've been out and about with good wingmen, but due to my extensive traveling, it's hard to meet new guys that share your level of skill and understand rules of being a good wingman. So, solo is my way to go -- that being said, don't hesitate to go out and have fun with a group of friends (male and female) - just do your approaches solo.  This way, the woman has likely already noticed you laughing and having a good time with your friends.

Now, having a mentor or coach with you is a different thing, so don't get confused there!

Quick tip on creating a connection...

Making eye contact is a secret to making an initial chemistry connection.

We've got lots of posts on eye contact -- and here is yet another one - why?
Because eye contact is  so damn powerful!  It creates chemistry, which creates attraction.  It can help sexually escalate and so much more.

Get comfortable looking into her eyes and being able to maintain a strong solid eye contact.

Attraction is all about....

Attraction is about spiking emotions and adding value.
Being funny, teasing, and push/pull are all tools you should have in your arsenal.

Learn more by reading Magic Bullets by Love Systems  or pickup a few free ebooks at seductionebooks.com

Being Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

For those that are quite new and uncomfortable around attractive women, I like to take them to strip clubs.

This puts them into an uncomfortable position, and allows them to learn to be comfortable in a situation where attractive women (for the most part, lol) are approaching you.

So, learn to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations (& not just situations involving women).

You'll notice massive improvements in your self confidence and inner game.

If you're going to flirt....

Last night I ran a small workshop for shy guys - it's designed to get guys comfortable with the tension of talking to "hot women"... we start out with some theory and take it to a strip club for "immersion therapy" so I can get a good handle on specific aspects of "things needing work"..  (learn more about the workshops here - or try a LoveSystems boot camp in your area).

Anyway, we bounced after a couple of hours to a regular night club to work on approaching "regular" women...

Now, I know I've said this before, but it needs said again:

If you're going to flirt, be ready to make the approach.
You're telling the girl you're interested and if you get smiles and acknowledgements back - she is interested in you.  Approach and start a conversation!  

It was obvious with a couple of my clients that a couple of attractive ladies were getting "frustrated" by the flirting, but lack of approaching.  Guys, you know who you are!

If you're stuck with approach anxiety too, check this out for some great tips.

Escalate sooner than later.....

The longer you're talking to her with out (sexually) escalating, the more awkward it will be later (if not impossible).

While on this topic, the same thing applies even in an approach... if you're checking each other out, but you don't make a move, you might as well forget it later on - it just gets too awkward - for the both of you.

Learn more tips like this - check out Bang! More Lays in 60 Days from RooshV

Set some standards...

Some guys think by going for girls less attractive it's easier. That's not the case. There's no correlation.

For more great game changing tips, check out "Bang! More Lays in 60 Days, by RooshV"

Be non-reactive for attraction.

Being non-reactive is very attractive to women.
Just enjoy yourself and don’t seek specific responses from her.

(As your game improves, you'll notice her trying harder to "impress you"... just continue being non-reactive -- but interested - for amazing results).

Check out the ebook "Bang - 60 Days to More Lays", for other great advice!

When are you seducing her?

The seduction phase in #dating is when the woman feels aroused by a man’s touch without awkwardness or embarrassment.

"Magic Bullets", from LoveSystems will improve your game in a drastic way, so you can avoid those awkward or even those times girls sense "creepiness".