conversation ideas: tattoos

If she has tattoos, give her a simple comment like, " I really like your tattoo - what inspired you to get it?"

Listen and keep asking questions based on her answers.   You'll build rapport and comfort with her.
For more tips, check out smalltalkforseduction.com or the love systems podcast on conversation.

Stuck for something to say?

If you're having trouble figuring out something to say, take a moment:

What do you see on her that is unique or unique about the situation?  (I really love that tattoo)
What do you feel about the environment you're in (ie, the band is great)
 etc.

 If you're stuck with conversation troubles or even approach anxiety, check out The Approach Anxiety Eliminator by Carlos Xuma 

Compliments - yes they do work!

Always pay attention to your girl's appearance. She's used to hearing guys tell her she's hot, or sexy -- but  when a guy notices (& compliments her) on a new outfit or hairdo, she takes notice!

A common thing I like to do  with strippers is exactly this --  since most guys are eyeing the girl when she's practically naked, I take note when the girls are putting on "clothes" and heading outside for a break -- "Hey, you look incredibly cute in that dress", or, "you have a great sense of style tonight".. etc.    

 One of my recent stripper 'seductions' (see stripclubadventures.com) was using this exact technique.  I practically ignored this girl when she was on stage, but when she later walked past me in a cute little sun dress to go outside for a smoke, I tossed out the "wow, you look incredibly cute in that dress" line.  She stopped dead in her tracks, gave me a slightly confused look and sat down with me.  A few minutes later and we had plans for the next day.  Complimenting her on her dress immediately snapped her out of 'stripper mode' and stirred her interest.  

Give it a try next time you're out -- compliment on something she has taken the time to do - her hair, clothes, etc.    She's tired of hearing "hey you're hot" and "hey beautiful".. those are compliments that don't work.


Want more great ideas for approaching and turning her on?
Check out the ebook "Bang!" by Roosh (click here).

Shock value... "the most romantic thing"

If you've been reading some of my posts, you'll realize we want to "shock & awe" the girl... to wake her out of the zombie-like trance most people are stuck in.  Doing so makes you a memorable guy, and might just pique her interest in you.

Here is something I came across quite some time ago, and I regularly toss this in to arouse random women from their typical boring day...    you can be chatting for a couple of minutes, or use this on a "hired gun", or female employee at a store you're at.

Basically, after she says something normal, you simply respond with "Wow, that is the most romantic thing a woman has ever said to me! "

More than likely you'll get a smile, perhaps a giggle and you can take it from there!

For more great ideas, check out the free ebook files at seductionebooks.com 

Gettting her phone number...

She'll be more likely to give you her number if you assume she'll give it.

You can use lines like, "This has been great. I'm going to give you a call.",

or my favorite of just handing her my phone and saying "Put your number in here, and I'll give you  a call".

(** if you're handing her your phone, make sure you spend a few seconds and quickly get it to where all she has to do is put in her number -- she doesn't want to have to learn your phone first!)

Confidence is key, and my friend Carlos Xuma has some great ideas to boost your confidence in his Approach Anxiety Eliminator ebook.  Check it out here!

If you're going to flirt....

Last night I ran a small workshop for shy guys - it's designed to get guys comfortable with the tension of talking to "hot women"... we start out with some theory and take it to a strip club for "immersion therapy" so I can get a good handle on specific aspects of "things needing work"..  (learn more about the workshops here - or try a LoveSystems boot camp in your area).

Anyway, we bounced after a couple of hours to a regular night club to work on approaching "regular" women...

Now, I know I've said this before, but it needs said again:

If you're going to flirt, be ready to make the approach.
You're telling the girl you're interested and if you get smiles and acknowledgements back - she is interested in you.  Approach and start a conversation!  

It was obvious with a couple of my clients that a couple of attractive ladies were getting "frustrated" by the flirting, but lack of approaching.  Guys, you know who you are!

If you're stuck with approach anxiety too, check this out for some great tips.

It's ok to talk to strangers...

Approach a woman and say 'hi' -- if you get an odd / confused look, just say, "it's ok... we're adults now - it is ok to talk to strangers"...  see where that goes.