Do you need social proof?

Social proof is more for places where girls actively seek status, like nightclubs with table service, not regular bars and chill neighborhood spots you should be going to. -- RooshV author of "Bang!" (click here to get it).

If you tend to be a quieter type of guy, you're probably not eager to get into a busy nightclub and "play up" who you really are.  After all, what happens if you're after a relationship and you've wowed her amazing social proof at a nightclub?  She'll soon learn that isn't who you are.

Keep the social proof to a minimum - Some "PUAs" have talked about routines involving having friends follow you with a camera, taking pictures and acting like you're some big shot movie star (that the world doesn't know about).. Yeah... that's not for me and something I don't recommend for most guys.

Keep things relaxed and along the lines of "who you are".. you'll experience much more positive results!

having a wingman or going solo?

   By being alone, not drunk, relaxed, and approachable, I get bumped up on her sex wish list.   --RooshV

 Those are some great words from Roosh - author of Bang! (get it now if you don't already have the ebook)  - and it's something I've always also been in agreement with.

Honestly, I've never been a good wingman.  I've been out and about with good wingmen, but due to my extensive traveling, it's hard to meet new guys that share your level of skill and understand rules of being a good wingman. So, solo is my way to go -- that being said, don't hesitate to go out and have fun with a group of friends (male and female) - just do your approaches solo.  This way, the woman has likely already noticed you laughing and having a good time with your friends.

Now, having a mentor or coach with you is a different thing, so don't get confused there!

conversation ideas: tattoos

If she has tattoos, give her a simple comment like, " I really like your tattoo - what inspired you to get it?"

Listen and keep asking questions based on her answers.   You'll build rapport and comfort with her.
For more tips, check out smalltalkforseduction.com or the love systems podcast on conversation.

Stuck for something to say?

If you're having trouble figuring out something to say, take a moment:

What do you see on her that is unique or unique about the situation?  (I really love that tattoo)
What do you feel about the environment you're in (ie, the band is great)
 etc.

 If you're stuck with conversation troubles or even approach anxiety, check out The Approach Anxiety Eliminator by Carlos Xuma 

Confidence vs Creepy

Once she notices you looking, you’re either going to be “confident” or “creepy,” so be confident and approach.

You've probably heard of the "3 second rule" - so do something - it's better than nothing!

Check out Magic Bullets by Love Systems for approach ideas, and of course, browse our sections on approach ideas and pickup lines for a few tips too!

Compliments - yes they do work!

Always pay attention to your girl's appearance. She's used to hearing guys tell her she's hot, or sexy -- but  when a guy notices (& compliments her) on a new outfit or hairdo, she takes notice!

A common thing I like to do  with strippers is exactly this --  since most guys are eyeing the girl when she's practically naked, I take note when the girls are putting on "clothes" and heading outside for a break -- "Hey, you look incredibly cute in that dress", or, "you have a great sense of style tonight".. etc.    

 One of my recent stripper 'seductions' (see stripclubadventures.com) was using this exact technique.  I practically ignored this girl when she was on stage, but when she later walked past me in a cute little sun dress to go outside for a smoke, I tossed out the "wow, you look incredibly cute in that dress" line.  She stopped dead in her tracks, gave me a slightly confused look and sat down with me.  A few minutes later and we had plans for the next day.  Complimenting her on her dress immediately snapped her out of 'stripper mode' and stirred her interest.  

Give it a try next time you're out -- compliment on something she has taken the time to do - her hair, clothes, etc.    She's tired of hearing "hey you're hot" and "hey beautiful".. those are compliments that don't work.


Want more great ideas for approaching and turning her on?
Check out the ebook "Bang!" by Roosh (click here).

If you're going to flirt....

Last night I ran a small workshop for shy guys - it's designed to get guys comfortable with the tension of talking to "hot women"... we start out with some theory and take it to a strip club for "immersion therapy" so I can get a good handle on specific aspects of "things needing work"..  (learn more about the workshops here - or try a LoveSystems boot camp in your area).

Anyway, we bounced after a couple of hours to a regular night club to work on approaching "regular" women...

Now, I know I've said this before, but it needs said again:

If you're going to flirt, be ready to make the approach.
You're telling the girl you're interested and if you get smiles and acknowledgements back - she is interested in you.  Approach and start a conversation!  

It was obvious with a couple of my clients that a couple of attractive ladies were getting "frustrated" by the flirting, but lack of approaching.  Guys, you know who you are!

If you're stuck with approach anxiety too, check this out for some great tips.

Set some standards...

Some guys think by going for girls less attractive it's easier. That's not the case. There's no correlation.

For more great game changing tips, check out "Bang! More Lays in 60 Days, by RooshV"

It's ok to talk to strangers...

Approach a woman and say 'hi' -- if you get an odd / confused look, just say, "it's ok... we're adults now - it is ok to talk to strangers"...  see where that goes.